Be grateful for who you are

Be grateful for who you are                                                      130610

                Most such people live frustrated lives because they spend their lives pretending to be what other people want them to be. This is because they realise that it is painful to maintain a personality that is not. They spend a lot of time trying to change themselves but they are never satisfied with the individuals they create when they try to change themselves in this way.

                The major problem is that people want to please everybody else except themselves. If you give people a chance, they will make comments about you and make you uncomfortable with whom you are. If the truth be told, there is always something that is not right about you. Its either you are too tall or too short, too big or too small, too dark or too light. Nothing about you is going to be the best to everyone who sees you, and you have to live with it. If you listen to everybody you will be convinced that you have to change and become someone else.

There are very few things in real life that are considered quite right. I mean the weather is too hot or too cold, too dry or too wet. If you find the weather being right for everyone then there is a problem. It does it once in a whole when it moves from one extreme to another and that is for a very short time. You will find that your stature and character can only be this or that and never perfect. There are others who will like you like that and others who will never like you no matter who you become. If you spend your time trying to change you will be able to become what people tell you to be only to find yourself offending others with the same personality that took you so much to produce.

The best you can be is to appreciate that at the end of the day you are an individual different from everybody else and that is what it is meant to be. If anybody has a problem with who you are they must change the way they look at you not you changing yourself because once you begin, you will have to do it gain and again. Changing your personality in this way is frustrating and a waste of energy basically. How then can you stop worrying about all these comments and focus on being the best you can be?

The first thing is to understand that there is no one else like you in this whole world today. There has never been anyone who has the combination of characteristics that you have. Even if the world was to be around for the next million years there would be no one else exactly like you. This is good in that there is no comparison whatsoever that should be made between you and any other individual. This does not mean to say that people will not try to compare you with everybody else. In fact they always will, but you have to decide to ignore them when they want you to be like them or someone else whom you are not meant to be. As long as you appreciate that you are unique you will have less pressure. You do not necessarily have to be like everybody else.

Once you know that you are not like everybody else, you have to appreciate that the best you can be is yourself. There are many who can try to be you but the best they can be is second best because no one can beat you at being yourself. It comes naturally to you. The same happens when you want to be somebody else. You will fail dismally if you try to be someone else who is not you. There is no one who can beat you at being you so strive to be the best you. You will have no competition.

Some of the issues that people raise are genuine concerns that highlight areas that you need to work on. For this reason, do not block all people out. You need to make sure, however, that you do not let them dictate the pace. If someone thinks you need to change in some respect, find out how necessary it is to do so, and in what way you will benefit. If the person involved is the only one who will benefit from the changes he/she is suggesting then you have to think before you act. Some people will encourage you to change so that they can benefit. Others genuinely love you and wish the best for you. You must be sensitive enough to know the difference. Once you see need to change in some area, go ahead and do everything necessary to change. That way you will become a better person.

You can never be able to satisfy everybody. If you let what they say affect you, you will be miserable the rest of your life. What you need is to be grateful that you are different, and that you are who you are. Do your best to develop the best individual that you can become. Those who want you to change will frustrate you if you let them. Most people will appreciate you for who you are, so work hard at being the best you without trying to satisfy everybody.