Do not take people’s comments personally

Do not take people’s comments personally                                                        040710

            Have you ever realised that when you have an aching spot in your body, everyone who comes in contact with you seems to touch that place. No matter how much effort you put in trying to keep the sore away, people have a way of finding it and causing you pain. You probably know that these people would not hurt you deliberately, but somehow these painful paces seem to be always accessible despite all your efforts to keep them out of reach.

            What is important to realise is that people are in contact with these spots all the time they are in contact with you, but when these areas are not injured you do not feel the people’s touch as pain causing. What makes you sensitive when you get injured is that the pain is instant so you respond to it. There are many times when someone seems to always touch you on the sore spot no matter how much you both try to avoid it. It may be because this loved one may be used to touching you in a specific way and it has become habitual, and now that the place this individual is used to touch has become injured, it becomes easy to unconsciously touch the same spot. You may interpret this as carelessness on their part but it may just be a way of showing they care, in the same way they have done so in the past and you never seemed to care. They may actually be wondering why you are being sensitive all of a sudden.

            There are many comments that people say about you in public that they say to everyone without causing offense. It may be that you say certain things that offend others without realizing it. You may be saying these things as a joke because when someone says the same to you, you take it lightly. The same words that make everyone laugh and enjoy themselves can be painful to someone sensitive. Sensitivity is not because the spot that is hurting wants to hurt in this way. It may be accidentally injured, and as long as the injury has not healed, it will continue to be painful when touched.

            In general, when an injury occurs on the leg, every other part of the body can be touch without feeling uncomfortable. This means that an injured person becomes sensitive only when the injured part is touched. There are others who get involved in traffic accidents. Such people have more sore spots as a result. In such cases it may be wise to be very careful in that if you touch any place there are chances of causing pain.

            Emotional pain is as painful as physical pain although it is not quite tangible. Most people are hurting in some way and once in a while someone says something that touches this sore spot. Because such hurting people may not tell the offenders that they are hurting in this way, these people may continue to touch this same spot without realizing that they are causing pain, to the discomfort of those hurting. Words touch these sore spots as hands do in the physical. Most people end up hating the people who hurt them in this way not realising that they may not be aware of the pain they are causing. This happens when they take people’s comments personally.

            If you look deep down in your heart, you will find some spots that are sore. The pain they cause may be mild oar severe, depending on when the pain was caused and the healing process you are going through. There are times when someone says something that reminds you of this pain and as a result you feel the pain once again. Some of these people do not realise that they are causing you pain so they keep saying the painful words in your presence. There are times when others know about the pain you are going through and they try to help you by giving some medicine for your wounds. The problem may be that these self-proclaimed ‘doctors’ may not have experience in healing the type of ailment you will be having so in trying to help they cause more pain instead. Such need to be forgiven because their intention is to help you and not to hurt you.

            In general, if the wound is going to heal, it has to be exposed to medicine, and medicine causes pain. If you realise this, you will realise that some amount of pain is necessary for healing to take place. This may come through someone talking the issue over with you. If you do not expose the pain to the truth, it may last a lifetime. There are many who got amputated in the end because they feared the pain caused by ‘Betadine”. If they had endured the small pain at first, their limps would not have grown septic, something that necessitated the amputation. The same may happen if you keep emotional pain on the inside. It has a way of eating you up on the inside.

            If you will avoid emotional pain caused by those who speak carelessly, do not take anything they say personally. Of course, if your weight bothers you, you will be touched when someone tells you that you have grown too big. But it may be true and since you are doing something about it, you should take it as encouragement to do something about the painful spot. As long as you do not take these comments personally, you will heal faster.